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THE MIND CAN GO PLACES FASTER THAN A TRAIN CAN...
​THIS IS WHERE MY MIND GOES... 
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I love you Lillian

1/21/2022

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I was taught to care for others first and not myself. I was given baby dolls for Christmas instead of cars as I wanted. I have always hated the idea of little girls playing around with dolls. The idea of little girls having to care for others and not the boys just didn't sit well with me.  I did not know why I hated it but looking back,  I just knew that taking care of others was a setup and found it unfair that my little brother got toys he could have fun with and not have to take care of like a parent. 
I was told to marry well since I had specific taste in clothing. There was little faith in me, but to ensure that when I got married, I would be a good wife. A Latina by 13 (average) should know how to cook and clean and do it well. In essence, I was raised to serve the man, the husband, the house, the children (nothing wrong with this), but no one prepared me to serve myself first! 

At 32 years old, I had decided to focus on ME, loving me. At 32, I did some mirror work with a spiritual psychotherapist, and she asked me to say, “I love you,” while I looked in the mirror. It was the hardest thing to do ever. 

We, men and women alike, fall in love with other people so easily and legitimately will look at their good and ignore the red flags in hopes of a future with them.

Why can't we do the same for ourselves?

I am happy to report that since I looked in the mirror and said, “I love you, Lillian, I have been falling in love with myself since then and the life I live. I have become very comfortable being in my own company and enjoying the times I sit in reflection or simply alone. 

I do love Lillian, and I challenge you to fall in love with yourself. 

Learn to serve yourself. 

Learn to truly love yourself. 

So the same way Mel Robbins suggests you high-five yourself (believe that you can and celebrate what you have done), I challenge you to say, “ I love you” in the mirror until you do love yourself. 

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Christina c. link
1/21/2022 11:30:33 pm

I absolutely agree. In so many ways. But I'll just give you 2! Hahha. Because you know I can get lengthy with words.

1. This has been truly a generational curse that I am truly glad that I am breaking. With thw girls I pride myself in showing them that the true act of kindness goes both ways, I use the word kindness because that's exactly what it is. Being there for individuals, serving, tending to, or hosting is a kind act, not a necessarynor should it be an expected one. It took us so long to find ourselves and I know I can speak for myself it's an everyday battle because "habits are not easily broken". It is a daily struggle to not feel bad for choosing to do for myself before I do for others.

2. You have always been your beautiful self in my eyes, however, I have and give you the utmost respect seeing the drive, determination , love , care and attention you have given yourself! Although I have always seen it like I said, I have always seen the care for others before you as well. So this bloom has been amazing to watch and truly inspiring for me.

--Love Chris

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